ResLife has taken over my life. Any of you who have ever known an RA are not in the least bit surprised by this realization. I'm at the point now where I'm so invested in my residents and my staff and my programs that it's all I can think about. And talk about. And sometimes I want to talk about or do something else, and reslife shows me how wrong I really was. No I didn't, I still just want to OBSESS OVER RESLIFE.
GAHH.
I was really upset by this, and other things, the other night, and spent a long time talking about it to Erik. When the conversation died down, Erik wanted to talk about something else because HE HAS A LIFE. I didn't even know how to react to something not reslife related. It didn't turn into an argument, but we both left with hurt feelings.
It's left me wondering a lot. I think ideally, wherever I end up for a job, I'll have as much passion and interest for that as I do for my RA position. But is it going to be so bad that I can't talk about anything else, also? What kind of implications does this have for my relationships with people outside of my career? Is this a bad thing? Should I just only be friends with people who are in the same idustry, so as to avoid boring them to death?
I know it seems like I'm blowing this out of proportion, but really I'm just thinking it to death. It's my, perhaps twisted, way of being introspective.
Well, I don't know all the details, but it seems like with being an RA and living the whole "ResLife" the important part is the "Life" part. I'm not entirely sure how much an RA actually spends on-the-job, but the point is as an RA it basically is your life, not just your job. You live with all of your residents and it consumes almost everything you do by it's very nature. If that's how you life, it's not surprising that would be all you talk about. Hopefully when you get a job in industry you're not spending almost all of your time at it, so it seems like something that would give you the little things, that you can relate to everyone about, back.
ReplyDeleteIt really isn't supposed to be your life, it is a job. The life part does not refer to how much time it takes up but rather the fact that Residence Life is supposed to be more than where you keep your stuff and sleep, it's a community of support. In fact, it's important to remember that you're not just an RA, because otherwise you can get yourself in trouble with how much you're working and it can become unhealthy.
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