tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8560377608772771200.post5626194460837336943..comments2023-03-26T00:22:24.671-07:00Comments on For The Lulz: Jealousy is Not the Same Thing as Lovechelseahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07313514894863633320noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8560377608772771200.post-76937776998648403612010-08-09T18:42:48.117-07:002010-08-09T18:42:48.117-07:00chels, I love this post.chels, I love this post.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476923439660699933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8560377608772771200.post-36359647131948628362010-08-02T19:42:42.423-07:002010-08-02T19:42:42.423-07:00I guess I can see how that makes sense. Still, in ...I guess I can see how that makes sense. Still, in my mind at least (and this is why I want citations) there's a difference between overly protective behavior and abuse. I wouldn't be surprised to learn there's a correlation, but... I'd be interested in seeing a study of some sort, instead of saying "This behavior can be dangerous/deadly/etc."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8560377608772771200.post-45508901327564359992010-08-02T18:02:13.903-07:002010-08-02T18:02:13.903-07:00I completely agree with the above stated-- I'v...I completely agree with the above stated-- I've been volunteering at the local domestic violence center, and we're trained to recognize that kind of controlling behavior as a possible precursor to abuse. Abuse is about power and control, and this kind of jealousy can be the first step.Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03843352081471719134noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8560377608772771200.post-27138921332547547132010-08-02T14:53:04.376-07:002010-08-02T14:53:04.376-07:00Under "controlling behavior," the top th...Under "controlling behavior," the top three bullet points are touched upon in his article: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm#signs. Anything abusive has the potential to lead to physical harm, and physical harm obviously has the potential to lead to death. If these men are being abusive in these ways, there's no telling how many other ways they could be abusive. And the author of the article does not say that these guys are definitely going to hurt them or kill them, but these behaviors are red flags indicating that these guys should be watched closely. Maybe the jealousy is as far as it goes, but maybe not.chelseahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07313514894863633320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8560377608772771200.post-90168793535315463732010-08-02T14:44:27.704-07:002010-08-02T14:44:27.704-07:00I rather enjoyed that article. I agree with just a...I rather enjoyed that article. I agree with just about everything he said, although there are a couple things I'm a little skeptical of. He constantly makes statements along the lines of, "Accepting the jealous requests can often be harmful.... or deadly." In just about every paragraph he included a comment about how this is a dangerous mode of thought, but he never cited his sources. I agree with him, but some examples backing up his claims (especially the 'deadly' one) would have been nice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com